5 Things to Remember When You Feel Forgotten:
You may think my timing is off, but Christmas day seems fitting for this message.
Can you imagine how forgotten Mary might have felt, laying her baby in an animal trough? And shortly thereafter, having to flee for their lives? There was a lot of trauma in that mama’s first few months post-partum. And I’m sure she had some very human emotions to wrestle through… Did you forget about me, God? Did you forget about your own Son? I’m sure she practiced the soul self-care we talked about last time together. She had to remind herself about the angel’s visit, the Shepherds, the words of Simeon and the Prophet Anna… because if she forgot those things, then all she’d be left with was her feeling forgotten emotions.
I don’t know what your Christmas looks like this year. I dearly hope it is Merry and Bright. But if there are things going on in your life that leave you feeling a little overlooked and forgotten, may this comfort you today. Receive that comfort as a gift from the God Who Sees You. The God Who is Ever Mindful of You. And may you find comfort knowing that you’re not alone in the way you feel today. Mary just may have felt the same way this time of year, not so long ago.
Things to Remember when you feel forgotten:
You are not forgotten. It just feels that way.
“So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the LORD your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you."
Deuteronomy 31:16 NLT
Remember to wait. Usually with hindsight, we see why we didn't receive what we asked for when we asked for it. Like a couple longing to get pregnant; then realizing the husband has to deploy. They thank God later for the heartache of waiting because this couple would've felt even more... My friend, Christie Love, put it this way… Wait on God as if you're a patient. You don't rush a doctor in surgery on your child. Because trust he's doing a good job. Good jobs take time. You don't rush a contractor to build your house because you'd rather have quality craftsmanship, not sloppy work. God seems to value the long-term and the eternal more than the urgency of the short-term. Be patient with the Lord as He is patient with you. Let's give God the same grace. Trust him to do a good job. Remembering that good jobs take time.
“Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.”
When you are forgotten by people, it does not change your value. Your worth is not wrapped up in imperfect people who treat you imperfectly. You are a Child of God. Declare it. He never, ever forgets anything. Not the timing of sunrise, not the order of the stars, not a single bird nor berry. Especially not His own kids!
“I will walk among you and be your God, and you will be my people.”
When you feel like God has forgotten you, try to build your sense of wonder. Ok, Lord. Things are not looking good. But you Oh Lord are my Provider, Deliverer, Protector. I trust in you... so I know you must be up to something good. Like a woman who feels forgotten on her birthday, only to discover a surprise party was waiting for her. Trust God. He's working this out for your good. It will surprise and shock you, but don't wait until that day to bless His Name.
"My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts," says the LORD. "And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.”
Bless His Name. Thank God ahead of time. Whether you're feeling poochy because no one is celebrating you or whether you're nervous/afraid in that "waiting room"... The Lord your God is With You and He is Mighty to Save. So bless Him, praise Him, thank Him in advance.
“Bless the LORD, O my soul, and do not forget all His kind deeds— “
Psalm 103:2 NLT
Here’s a brief poem for Christmas… “What to get the Guy who already has everything.” The message is sure to realign your spirit this Christmas.
Need some more loving?
Here’s the article I mentioned on How to Practice Self-care For Your Soul and those difficult emotions.
Here’s one you really may love on The Joyous Gift of Christmas Disappointment.
You’ll also enjoy: “Developing a Sense of Wonder.” by Graham Cooke. In a hurry? Skip ahead to page 4 of this document. Graham Cooke is the one who introduced that concept to me and it has made a world of difference in changing the way my imagination works. It helps me practice Wonder instead of practicing worry.